Posted April 7, Hello all, my first time trying to write in a forum, but I feel I need to try something else for help I'm in my 30's, and I have struggled for almost 6 years since my divorce to find the right partner, and every time I get into a new one, its great for a short period of time, then I find myself over analyzing the girl, noticing her flaws or things I don't like, and if or when they become deal breakers to me, we end up breaking up, then I feel depressed and struggle to find someone else.
So much to be grateful for and happy about, and yet I'm sad. Then I get frustrated that I'm sad, and I can't figure out why! The only thing I can possibly say that is not my favorite thing about my girl, is that she is a little shorter than most of my other girlfriends, but that doesn't make her less beautiful to me, but I do find myself at times looking at her as though she is a child or teenager instead of an adult.
This causes me at times to withdraw and not engage as much sexually, and I wonder if that is what is making me depressed? In my personal experience, I dated a guy with ADHD for six months. At first it was the best thing that ever happened to either of us. We both understood the kinds of things the other was going through and there was never any judgement.
We helped each other through a lot of things and definitly grew as people. However, after a couple months I learned that ADHD has a huge impact on relationships. He got 'bored' with me, when he wasn't intertested in a topic he didn't want to talk about it, and he said really inappropirate things that we extremely hurtful to me because of my SA.
I don't think OCD would have as big of an impact on a relationship. I think if you can always remind yourself that "He isn't doing it on purpose it's his OCD," it could really be a positive relationship full of understanding. I hope things work out for you! Thread Tools Show Printable Version Show Printable Version. BB code is On. Why is being alpha a By "recovery," I mean how we learn to manage the disorder.
A lot of us with OCD may eventually reach a place were the disorder no longer depresses or scares us. Sure, it'll still bug the hell out of us most of the time, but being able to cope with the disorder is our form of recovery. Having someone by your side to help through the tough times means more than you can ever know, so don't underestimate how important you are to your partner.
There are a lot of stereotypes surrounding OCD, but it's true that, for certain people, cleanliness, order, structure, and just having something done in a certain way is important to a lot of us. In any other situation, it may seem annoying for someone to suddenly re-clean a dish you've already washed or rearrange a desk you had already organized, but keep in mind that if we don't have our spaces in a certain way, then it can make us extremely anxious.
No one's mental health is perfect. We all have days when getting out of bed or going to a therapy session feels like it will do us more harm than good. Days like these are actually part of our recovery, because sometimes we just need to give ourselves a break. Everyone misses a day of two of class, or the gym. Why should therapy be any different? We can't be skilled at dealing with our OCD every day, so please don't judge us for it.
Like many other mental-health conditions, OCD is linked to other disorders, and each disorder can affect the other greatly. This isn't the case for everyone, of course, but it is for many, especially me. Not only can obsessive-compulsive thoughts spark an anxiety attack, but the day-to-day routine of your brain telling you that you can't do something is very upsetting. If you're unsure why your obsessive-compulsive partner is showing depressive symptoms or suddenly keeling over with a breathless panic attack, this may be why.
Many people try to remind us that, since OCD is incurable and is something we live with every day, we need to stop complaining about it and think about something else. I find this ironic considering a huge portion of OCD is obsessive worrying.
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He is really into me and said his heart sank when I started saying I don't know any dating site here I can handle it, and I guess I just never talked dating someone with ocd forum him while he was dealing with anxiety. Says how stupid his ocd and anxiety is. This is when I realized he gets anxiety from that. Our second date was a disaster. His OCD sounds way outta control and untreated? It had to be a certain amount of kisses and couldn't end too soon or be interrupted! We went to a pub? Plenty of people can manage their OCD with therapy, and he said he wanted to explain what goes on in his brain. PARAGRAPHJournals Recent Entries Best Entries Best Journals Journal List Search Journals. Share Share this post on Digg Del.